One reason couples avoid using sex toys is because they’re unsure how to properly incorporate them into their sex life. When done incorrectly a vibrator can become more of a distraction rather than a sensation enhancer.
Another aspect that’s important to consider is how loud the motor is. For the majority, quieter motors are preferred as they ensure privacy or it’s considerate to those trying to sleep next door.
To better receive the benefits of sharing adult toys, choosing certain positions will make the experience a lot more pleasurable. The difference between some positions is that they are more accommodating to vibrators. You need space to comfortably place your hands or even a single finger for potentially a long period of time.
Further couples note feeling an increase of intimacy as it reignites some much needed variation in a boring sex life. Things becoming more orgasmic is always going to reconnect a relationship. Sex toys reduce the pressure men feel to last longer or provide enough stimulation for orgasm, of course this shouldn’t encourage complacency! But sex toys can bridge the biological gap between orgasms in heterosexual relationships.
1. The afternoon delight
Sky rockets in flight, afternoon delight… Despite what it’s name suggests, this position is great for any time of the day. This position is supremely comfortable as both partners can comfortably relax on the bed. Because he is restricted to being behind her legs, rather than in between like missionary for example, there is plenty of room for clitoral stimulation. The man could either curve around the side of her to provide stimulation with the arm he’s resting on, or he could slip his free hand between her legs. However, the best way is when the women is holding the vibrator. She is in the most relaxed position and will mimic how she’d use it during a solo session. Allowing the stimulation and vibration settings to be specific to her.
2. Wide Open
Firstly, wide open is great for g-spot stimulation. With her legs resting upon the man, the angle encourages the possibility of stimulating the g-spot. Her legs are also spread wide so there is plenty of opportunity to utilise a vibrator. Again, she will be in a completely relaxed position, so she will be holding the toy. For additional sensation he can touch her breasts. The only negative about this position is that it may be a little bit difficult to create a consistent rocking motion during penetration. Grasping her sides while she pushes upwards will create an intimate effort towards a shared climax.
3. Reverse Cowgirl
Reverse cowgirl is unique because this position allows both partners to potentially receive pleasure from the vibrator. Either she can hold the vibrator, a finger vibe may be necessary if you’re tight for space. Another slightly awkward way for him to pleasure her would be to lean forward and reach around her body for clitoral stimulation.
However if wanting to give him the ride of his life. Taking a vibrator and either stimulating his balls or his taint (the area between his balls and anus) will give him one of the most outrageous orgasms he’s ever felt. Even if he’s adverse to the idea of anal play, this isn’t very intimidating and may even open some new fantasies or sex positive discussion.
4. The Star
The key factor in this position is that one of his legs is placed over hers. The reason for this is that it it helps in maintaining a constant motion during penetration and still allows enough space for clitoral stimulation. She will have to be controlling the vibrator as he needs both arms free to help with penetration.
5. Suspended Scissors
I know what you’re thinking, only a couple of olympic acrobats could pull of this position. Although you don’t necessarily have to be holding your partner or pushing off the ground. Instead her body can be resting upon a piece of furniture. Either a bed, couch or kitchen counter! Ideally, she wants to be able to push off of something to help with penetration. Notice the man’s right hand in the above image, this is where he can use a vibrator for extra stimulation. No matter how you can make this position easier, it will still be the most demanding position within this list. Therefore, bring each other close to climax and then finish with it for an all consuming crescendo.
Honourable mention!
Vibrating can be used in any position and any location. So if you’re looking to get into some thrilling positions outside of the bedroom, some remote controlled play may be the best way to spice things up.
Important things to remember!
Always consider what material your vibrator is made out of. The premium material for vibrators is silicone due to its body safe features and ease of cleaning.
When trying to choose the perfect vibrator, consider what your favourite position is. Vibrators come in all types of shapes, so ask yourself, will this vibrator fit in the space provided?
Do you want a powerful vibrator or just a light buzz. Read the description for any vibrator and check for what vibration or pulsation settings it boasts.