Let’s start off with a classic: the dildo. “Dildos are insertable toys designed for penetrative play,” says Finn. They can be used for vaginal sex, anal sex, and oral play. And while they’re often marketed as partnered play toys, they can be used solo or even to affirm one’s gender, Finn explains. Dildos come in different sizes and shapes, and the size you go for will depend on personal preference, says Oriowo. Oh, and there are a ton of different types—Finn listed at least eight! These include: strap-on dildos, hand-held dildos, G-spot dildos, double dildos, strapless strap-ons, anal-friendly dildos—a.k.a. a dildo with a flared based and smooth shaft, ideal for pegging—realistic dildos, and pack-and-play dildos.
How To Use This Toy: To use a dildo, you’ll first want to apply a generous amount of lubricant on the toy and on your genitals. Then, gradually insert the toy for vaginal or anal penetration, says Dr. Toubi. And if you’re using a strap-on dildo, make sure it’s securely strapped in the harness. The harness itself should be tight enough that it stays in place, but loose enough that you don’t risk cutting off any circulation, says Oriowo.
How To Care For This Toy: Repeat after me: Always clean your toys before and after use. For most dildos, mild soap and warm water should do the trick, says Dr. Toubi. But some require dedicated toy cleaners, so just be sure to read up on your toy’s instructions. If your dildo doesn’t have a motor, it’s most likely okay to submerge it in water, which will provide a deeper clean, says Oriowo. After washing, pat dry, and ideally store it in a cloth or silk bag, similar to the bags some purses come in, says Oriowo. This will keep dust off it.